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Why your friends and family don’t support your success.

Updated: Oct 7, 2022

When you FINALLY discover that something that sets your soul on fire, it makes you want to grab a mega-phone and yodel about it from the nearest roof top. It feels like a new, exhilarating door has been opened. You just KNOW that your life is changing for the better. It only feels right to want to share the good stuff with your nearest and dearest. Family, friends, neighbours, postman; pretty much anyone who has ears and is willing to listen. … right? Here’s the thing. You’re quickly slapped in the face by the reality that those who you thought would be your biggest cheerleaders, well, they aren’t. It’s not like they even smiled and humoured you, as you began to gush about your new-found passion project or business. It’s as if they suddenly morphed into some pessimistic life professor, who has NOTHING remotely good to say on the matter. Insisting they point out ALL of the potential hazards and dangers you WILL face on this new, (and now what seems) impossible journey. You have had your parade well and truly peed on.

All you’re left with is a list of reasons why it just won’t work for you, hurling around your mind. I’ve heard some corkers when it comes to reasons why you SHOULD NOT start a new passion project or business/career. “If you earn more money, you’ll end up in the next tax bracket, then you’re screwed” “What goes up, must come down” “Just because it’s worked for them, it doesn’t mean it will work for you” “You’ll end up brain washed doing all that mindset stuff” “Good things can’t last forever” The list goes on.

I have always been multi- passionate and had a strong interest in business from a young age. At age seven, I was creating weekly magic shows and charging the family and neighbours an admission fee to watch. Oh, and I insisted my mum bought biscuits for the interval, then charged everyone 20p per biscuit. Genius don’t you think? By the time I was 25, I built an international Network Marketing business very much part-time, that turned over quarter of a million pound in the first 12 months (much to most people’s dismay) whilst co-creating a limited company that sold products and services to support children’s and adult’s mental health. I’m now a Life Coach and Business Mentor, a huge part of my work is helping people release these limiting beliefs and blocks that have been programmed into them. I can openly say, I too have been at the receiving end of the dreary, fear based, close minded rants from others. From those who were close to me and from people I have never even met. But WHY do the ones you love and respect have the harshest opinions and doubts when it comes to supporting you on your new and exciting adventures?

Why don’t your closest celebrate your success?

It’s very simple – it’s fear. But, what do they fear?

  • change

  • the Unknown

  • that they may lose you

  • they will get left behind

  • it will make them look bad