Updated: Oct 7, 2022
Confidence is an inside job, you may look at others and think ‘wow, they look so confident!’ but it’s what is going on on the inside that really counts. Now more than ever people within the Warrior Academy are focusing on ways to feel confident again as we begin to step back into the world of physical connection and interaction.
Here are 3 things you can start doing today to instantly boost your confidence and lift your self esteem. *Warning – these may sound simple, but when you practice what I’m about to share with you, you may just find that there’s some things you currently do that are sabotaging your confidence without even realising it.
You may have some unhelpful habits that are blocking you from feeling like yourself and are dragging you down, so let’s dive in! 1. Stop ‘should’ing’ on yourself –
Every time you say ‘I should have said this to them’ or ‘I shouldn’t be eating this’ for example, you are flooding your mind and body with feelings of regret or remorse. Either way, they are damaging for your self-esteem.
It negatively effects your motivation every time you ‘should’ on yourself too, you are highlighting how you are aware of what you could be doing or wished you had done, but instead it’s either too late (regret) or you don’t actually plan on doing anything about it.
Here’s what you can start doing instead – firstly, become super self-aware about saying ‘should’ to yourself in your head and to others. Secondly, begin to replace it with more empowering, hopeful language such as ‘what I may do is…’ or ‘what I will do is…’. These simple switches change the entire context of what you are saying or thinking, and also has a positive impact on your motivation and outcome.
2. Accept compliments –
How many times has someone complimented you on how nice your hair looks today, for you to push back and say ‘oh I’ve just washed it, it really needs doing!’ or ‘this top was in the sale when I got it, not sure the colour suits me it washes me out!’ or ‘I’m sure that payrise/promotion was just a fluke’. I’m speaking from my own personal experiences here!
There’s a couple of reasons why this negatively impacts your self-esteem, you are putting yourself down to a level that feels more comfortable by not accepting the compliment, you are searching for a reason and validation to prove why what they said isn’t actually true and from the other persons point of view who complimented you, it’s basically saying I don’t agree with you, you are wrong. Which is never a nice feeling for them!
Take a breath and simply say ‘thank you, that’s made me smile’ or thank you, that’s made my day’. The moment you begin to own the praise or compliment you are affirming to yourself that you are worthy of others saying nice things about you, you acknowledge someone elses positive perspective (rather than fearing judgment) and it makes them feel good in return for making you smi