Updated: Oct 7, 2022
It can be easier said than done the whole ‘trusting the process’, especially when you may have felt like you tried that in the past and you still aren’t where you hoped you would be in life.
But here’s the thing, the more you try to control situations, people and outcomes, the more resistance you come up against both internally and externally. Why? Because simply put, you can’t control the uncontrollable.
No matter how hard you try, you can’t change things that are out of your control. The solution here is to focus on what you can control, and that is yourself.
The most powerful decision you can make in your life is to deep dig within you and trust that somehow, someway, it’s all going to be okay.
When I found myself completely paralysed with fear and anxiety when running my previous business, the last thing I felt I could do was trust it was all going to work out okay. The company itself was flourishing and the work was fulfilling, but the people I found myself working with simply weren’t aligned and I became a shell of who I was. My confidence was trampled on, I questioned my every move and knew that something had to change. I worked SO hard on changing everything outside of myself, yet nothing changed. In fact, it made things worse.
It wasn’t until I realised the inevitable; that for a positive change to happen, it was going to come from within me.
I genuinely had no idea what other options I had in business, I felt like my whole identity was based around what I was doing, I had worked my ass off growing it and it felt unfair for me to have to step away.
But I knew deep down that if I put my energy and focus into trusting that things will get better if I let go, that if I stepped away and started afresh, it will all work out SOMEHOW. So I did.
And I cried, a lot. I questioned if I had made the right decision and even explored backtracking because trusting the process was that uncomfortable to me back then. But I leaned in to my spiritual side, I reached out to my mentors and close friends – I let go of control and the need to have everything planned out.
Fast forward nearly 3 years and I can wholeheartedly say the process of trusting that everything will be okay was one of the most powerful life lessons I have experienced. I have a more aligned, successful business, a small team I work with, have more time freedom than I thought was possible and are now looking at going Ltd due to the growth in the last 18 months.
Had I not have trusted that things will get better and had the courage to step away and surrender to the process, I dread to think what I would be doing now and how I would be feeling.
Not trusting that things will get better is a choice, you are choosing to belie