Change, whether is positive or negative change tends to stir up a number of thoughts and emotions. Going into lock down for the first time a year ago, we were filled with ‘what if’s’. What if I don’t get to see my family again? When will this end? How will I cope? What’s going to happen in the future?
Yet here we are having got through that challenge, and now we are facing a new kind of change… coming out of lockdown!
What if I forget how to be around my friends and it’s awkward? What if we go back into lock down? What if people think I have lost / gained weight? How can I go out with my hair like this?!
Here are some gentle reminders should you be struggling with overwhelm, worry or anxiety as we embrace yet another change:
💜 You don’t need to suddenly have a diary full of plans, have holidays booked and be pampered head to toe rocking a new hair do to go out.
💜 You don’t need to look a certain way, lose weight or gain weight before you plan to see anyone.
If the people to plan on spending your time are half decent humans, they won’t give a s**t about what your body looks like. If they do, now is a great time to have a fresh start and find more aligned, loving friends.
💜 You aren’t alone if you feel worried, scared, overwhelmed or anxious.
We’ve adjusted to a new way of socialising and doing things, it may take some time to get used to going back out and about. Be patient and kind with yourself (and others!)
💜 It’s okay to say no.
If you don’t feel comfortable or ready to do something, just say no thank you. There’s plenty of time to re-adjust, remember social media has a clever way of making it look like the entire world is doing a certain thing or looks a certain way. Remind yourself of what’s real and what’s a highlight reel.
💜 Say yes, but share how you feel.
If you feel you want to go out and do something but feel overwhelmed or anxious, let the person know ahead of going. You may be surprised just how supportive they can be when given a chance.
💜 Dig out your wellbeing toolkit.
Make a list of all the things that help you feel more calm and confident and practice them often, at home and out and about. Some go-to things are: meditation, affirmations, mindful breathing, listening to something positive or motivating, carrying crystals, using aromatherapy oils, pull an affirmation/Angel/energy card, look for things to be grateful for.
💜 Reach out for support.
Don’t struggle alone if it does get too much for you. Whether it’s a trusted friend, family member, colleague or a professional like myself, getting support is VITAL to avoid a downward spiral and to ensure you come out of this feeling like YOU! Dare a say a stronger, more resilient you. Whether you’re buzzing about your next adventure out or feel a little tight chested about it, there’s simply no right or wrong way to feel.
Be super kind to yourself and know there is support available to help you navigate through how you are feeling and the next steps in your life.