A lot of people come to me and mention anxiety, and when I see this wave coming, I bring it right back to the basics.
Why do we need to go back to basics?
When we go back to basics, it means we go back to understanding the fundamentals of how your mind works, how your thoughts affect your emotions, your behaviours and your outcomes in life. It is critical to educate yourself on this because it will increase your awareness and help you transition from being at effect (I have anxiety, my anxiety, I feel overwhelmed, I don’t know what I’m doing) to actually understanding what’s going on.
This moves you from being the victim of your circumstances, to being in control. When you take a step back and taking ownership of how you’re feeling, even if it sucks, even if it’s uncomfortable – that is when you feel empowered and back in control.
Every single thought that you have instantly triggers emotions and feelings. Once you have that feeling or emotion within, that impacts your behaviours, and then behaviours impact your thoughts, and so the cycle continues.
If the thought is negative, you’ll no doubt be feeling stressed, overwhelmed, anxious. How does that then affect your behaviours? Your thoughts?
According to studies, we have between 50,000 and 80,000 thoughts per day, with about 80% of them being habitual. Meaning 80% of the thoughts you had yesterday are circulating around your head again today.
So many individuals come to me and say they’ve made changes, but are still unhappy (even if their Instagram life appears to be perfect)
Why does this continue to happen despite making minor or even major adjustments in their lives?
Because just changing your outside circumstances isn’t enough to make lasting change, and the surface level mindset can only take you so far. Imagine if 80% of your thoughts are negative or critical, and you’re used to thinking that way. Changing anything outside of yourself isn’t enough, you need intervention, and you need self-awareness.
How about thinking of good thoughts and affirmations?
People believe that if they think positive affirmations, everything else will fall into place. Affirmations play a huge role in creating a new empowered mindset and beliefs, but you can partner them with inner healing and release work to fully create a new mind and life.
The same goes for goal setting, this simply isn’t enough! Partnering it with the deeper mindset work is where the sweet spot lies.
Because if you think of a certain goal and internally it prompts feelings of not being good enough, fear, or limiting beliefs, you can do all the physical work and hope the goal will happen, but if there’s not a deep down knowing you are worthy and capable, you will procrastinate and self sabotage your way out of achieving the goal.
This is why I suggest going back to basics – starting by acknowledging that any anxiety and unwanted feelings are there, BUT you are going to start to choose better feel good thoughts.
This is how you begin to empower yourself to take back control. The three things I use when going back to basics are:
My Warrior CBT Wristband (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) to help snap away negative thoughts and remind me to choose a better thought or feeling.
Hypnotherapy and blueprinting meditations, because I can listen whilst in bed or at my desk and it doesn’t take much time to do (twin mama over here!) and it reprograms the mind on an unconscious level, getting deeper than the mindset work does.
Getting out in nature and being in the present moment. We tend to worry and feel more anxiety when thinking about things from the past or future. All of which we have no control over! The present we can choose where to put our energy and focus.