Updated: Oct 7, 2022
A lot of people come to me and mention anxiety, and when I see this wave coming, I bring it right back to the basics.
Why do we need to go back to basics?
When we go back to basics, it means we go back to understanding the fundamentals of how your mind works, how your thoughts affect your emotions, your behaviours and your outcomes in life. It is critical to educate yourself on this because it will increase your awareness and help you transition from being at effect (I have anxiety, my anxiety, I feel overwhelmed, I don’t know what I’m doing) to actually understanding what’s going on.
This moves you from being the victim of your circumstances, to being in control. When you take a step back and taking ownership of how you’re feeling, even if it sucks, even if it’s uncomfortable – that is when you feel empowered and back in control.
Every single thought that you have instantly triggers emotions and feelings. Once you have that feeling or emotion within, that impacts your behaviours, and then behaviours impact your thoughts, and so the cycle continues.
If the thought is negative, you’ll no doubt be feeling stressed, overwhelmed, anxious. How does that then affect your behaviours? Your thoughts?
According to studies, we have between 50,000 and 80,000 thoughts per day, with about 80% of them being habitual. Meaning 80% of the thoughts you had yesterday are circulating around your head again today.
So many individuals come to me and say they’ve made changes, but are still unhappy (even if their Instagram life appears to be perfect)
Why does this continue to happen despite making minor or even major adjustments in their lives?
Because just changing your outside circumstances isn’t enough to make lasting change, and the surface level mindset can only take you so far. Imagine if 80% of your thoughts are negative or critical, and you’re used to thinking that way. Changing anything outside of yourself isn’t enough, you need intervention, and you need self-awareness.
How about thinking of good thoughts and affirmations?